i don’t know if i agree with that. We should give more props to the parents, most of them are doing the best that they can – most of us didn’t take any parenting lessons right – it’s harder than it looks

Thanks for your comments jee!

Actually parents do not know what is wrong, and what is right. We were not taking the blame off the parents – we were saying the parents are ignorant. Probably by choice. They don’t know what their kids are doing, and they don’t know how to stop it because they don’t even know it’s happening. That was the intention of saying “parents don’t know what to do.”

They are in extreme denial and ignorance and they sometimes refuse to become aware of their childrens behaviour because it hurts their self-esteem, self-worth, and stature in society although they don’t realize that ignoring their childrens’ problems will only lead to bigger dents in their social status or self-esteem because the children will only go further into worse habits.

They would rather live in the short bliss of their present ignorance, rather than deal with the long-term challenges of improving their childrens lives through providing a loving and caring atmosphere with support, advice, good leadership and role models, and effective disciplinary techniques.

There are only a few parents – at least in the Indo Canadian community in BC – who are actually innocently ignorant and would do something if they were more aware of the problems. The rest of them don’t know what to do because they choose to avoid it. The media, the youth, and other more involved parents have to change this and make “careless” parents more aware and active and tell them what is going on , what they can do, and why it is so important to do it right away.

-Sevadars,
BC Sikh Youth.com

Vaheguru ji ka khalsa,
Vaheguru ji ki fatheh!

I don’t agree. Parents do know what is wrong and what is right for their kids and how to raise them. Some Sikh Canadian parents seem to priortize houses, Big screen TVs, nice Cars etc. over teaching good values and spending time with the kids. I bet half of them don’t even know or care what the kids are doing, lie to their kids, cheat themselves, don’t read to their kids, check their homework.